Words of Sympathy for Infant Loss

Infant loss, stillbirth and miscarriage are perhaps the most difficult times to offer words of sympathy. I cannot tell you very many things you can say to help parents who are experiencing this heartache, but I can tell you that simple gestures and acknowledgements are desperately needed for bereaved parents to cope with the death of their baby.

Perhaps the most helpful gesture you can make is to give grieving parents a way to honor and commemorate their precious baby. Miscarriage tends to not be acknowledged as much as other losses, yet this profound loss can cause deep grief that is difficult to reconcile without some kind of tangible way of finding closure. Acknowledging infant loss by sending flowers, a card or a memorial gift can really mean a lot.

Miscarriage jewelry makes a beautiful sympathy gift that gives a grieving woman a token of remembrance.

La Bella Dame is a wonderful source for Miscarriage, Stillbirth and Infant Loss Jewelry -Customised jewelry to celebrate the life of a child lost in miscarriage, stillbirth and infant loss. Each piece is created using carefully selected symbols to help support the grieving parent after the loss of a baby.

Another great source for remembrance jewelry and memorial keepsakes is My Forever Child

I found the My Forever Child website after a good friend of mine had suffered a miscarriage. I am so thankful that this website exists and I know that it has been a tremendous blessing to countless parents.

Another resource that has helped many parents cope with their loss is a wonderful nonprofit organization called, Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep. They have provided a special way for giving hope to grieving moms and dads as they cope with infant loss. If this is a loss close to your heart, you may want to consider donating to this organization. They provide beautiful professional portraits to bereaved parents at no cost.

The Best Ways to Offer Support for Infant Loss

Encourage her to share her thoughts and feelings, be comfortable with strong emotions and tears. Don't feel like you need to avoid asking the bereaved about how they feel, not speaking about the baby's death does not lessen the pain, so you do not need to avoid bringing it up or asking bereaved parents if they'd like to talk about it.

Offer to help with practical needs and household chores. It might only by something little that you are able to do, bringing over a meal or sending a carepackage, but it's the fact that you are doing something that speaks volumes. Many times people are overwhelmed with the sadness of their loss and because they feel so hopeless they do nothing.

Please do not avoid grieving parents. Make a simple gesture, even just sending a card to acknowledge their loss. Let them know that you are sad for them.

Here are some phrases to avoid saying:

• "It was meant to be."
• "It was for the best."
• "Your baby is in a better place now."
• "Time heals all wounds."
• "I know exactly how you feel." (even if you have experienced a similar loss)
• "At least you have other children." or "you can always have another baby."

This list compiled by Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep parents is a very good resource to help us understand what bereaved parents are going through and how we can help.

Light of My Heart - Miscarriage and Infant Loss Gift Set
From: The Comfort Company, Inc.

Find more sympathy poems and bereavement poems here

Sample Miscarriage Sympathy Card Messages, if you need to send a card here are some ideas to help you along the way.